Everybody’s got their own stuff– don’t let it become your stuff

By Steve Cichon
steve@buffalostories.com
@stevebuffalo

About ten of these can be summarized by saying, “everybody’s got their own insecurities and you have to know that– and not let the manifestations of other people’s bad feelings about themselves change your life.”

What 50-year-olds know that 20-year-olds often don’t

By Phyl Bean, theladders.com

I might have written that at 20, but probably thought that it was just something nice to say to someone who was struggling, and not necessarily completely true.

At 40, that notion is at the center of who I am, but it’s something I struggle with.

It’s mentally and intellectually easier to just be angry at someone than to be empathetic and try to understand or come to terms with why someone is being an asshole so that you can just get on with your own life.

Being angry is like setting the cruise control. Empathy and understanding takes work.

It’s exhausting, but it’s better for your soul than just assuming that everyone else’s life is sunshine, lollipops and rainbows… and you’re the only one with problems.

I’m glad I’m only 40, and in ten short years, I’ll have everything figured out by 50 like this lady. Hahaha.

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Steve Cichon

Steve Cichon is a proud Buffalonian helping the world experience the city he loves. writing about the people, places, and ideas that make Buffalo unique and special. The storyteller and historian has written six books, worn bow ties since the 80s, and is the News Director at WECK Radio. A 25 year Buffalo media veteran, Steve's contributed more than 1400 Buffalo History stories to The Buffalo News, worked at WIVB-TV, Empire Sports Network, and spent ten years as a newsman and News Director at WBEN Radio. He's also put his communication skills to work as an adjunct professor, a producer of PBS documentaries, and even run for Erie County Clerk. Steve's Buffalo roots run deep: all eight of his great-grandparents called Buffalo home, with his first ancestors arriving here in 1827.