About ten of these can be summarized by saying, “everybody’s got their own insecurities and you have to know that– and not let the manifestations of other people’s bad feelings about themselves change your life.”
By Phyl Bean, theladders.com
I might have written that at 20, but probably thought that it was just something nice to say to someone who was struggling, and not necessarily completely true.
At 40, that notion is at the center of who I am, but it’s something I struggle with.
It’s mentally and intellectually easier to just be angry at someone than to be empathetic and try to understand or come to terms with why someone is being an asshole so that you can just get on with your own life.
Being angry is like setting the cruise control. Empathy and understanding takes work.
It’s exhausting, but it’s better for your soul than just assuming that everyone else’s life is sunshine, lollipops and rainbows… and you’re the only one with problems.
I’m glad I’m only 40, and in ten short years, I’ll have everything figured out by 50 like this lady. Hahaha.